I cheated and am extremely sorry. is there hope to fix this

loserpunk,

Maybe you are not such a loser. You are truly sorry. You can learn from this. The only way to be close to someone is to be honest, and you did the right thing in telling your girlfriend. She is right in recognizing that it is your problem and not hers. Maybe there is hope for the two of you. I hope that it works out and that you never do anything like this again. If not, you can take what you learned to the next relationship.

Babs

Loserpunk, welcome to SupportGroups.com, takes a big man to admit & start dealing w/the issues that you created. As Babs said you can learn from this & step in the right direction by seeking assistance to talk the issues through so as to NOT repeat this again, am sure you've thought of WHY you cheated now & can start finding some coping skills to help lead you through towards a more intimate relationship & NOT just getting OFF on someone by cheating as thats just immature & self absorbed. Keep talking it through here, your not alone & be patient w/yourself & girlfriend as you have opened a big door with TRUST ISSUES w/her now & would be wise to be a "Picture Window" & hide nothing as that IS what a grownup relationship is really about.

Take care friend.

April

Loserpunk,

I wish my boyfriend had done what you are doing now. I admire your courage in facing this problem head on and acknowledging what you did was hurtful and wrong. Also I'm sure that your girlfriend appreciated hearing it FROM YOU and not someone else. You can get through this. You can be better from this. But it will take time, commitment and alot of soul searching.

Best of Luck,

Amberlee

Yes you can!

I went through a phase of serial cheating thinking that nobody was getting hurt. Until my wife found out and I saw the pain I had caused. This made me feel truly sorry and I think that it was partly my remorse and her recognition of it that helped us to get over it and even become closer, It's been six years now and we are both very happy and I have had absolutley no desire to stray again.

Yes, you need to get help to deal with the reason you cheated and be as open and honest and supportive as you can. It isn't easy for her and she is going to have good days and bad you just need to be there for her and show her not just tell her. She needs to hear it but she also needs to see it. Sometimes actions speak louder then words.