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I have been with my husband for 13 1/2 yrs. He's my life. I love him to death. He's all I ever known. We have had our ups and downs but we pulled it through. When we would argue I somehow got over it and found some way to make us laugh. Recently in september we got into an argument and he hit me. So I left and was staying with a friend for about 3 months. I decided to go back cause I knew we could work it out somehow. I still loved him and he still loved me and told me how he was going to change. So the fist month was the best. We got along and the sex life was great and we had communication. Well all of a sudden it stopped, he wasnt touching me, kissing me, talking to me, holding me at night. Everytime we would talk it would end up in an argument. He would go out and come home at 5am on a weekday and come up with a lie about how he lost his keys. He would tell me that he was depressed thats why he was being distant. Well come to find out he was sleeping with one of his co-workers and bringing her to our home and having sex with her at the house....Im torn, devasted, I fee low. I love him so much but he did this...why! I dont know If I should try to work it out with him or just to mvve on.

 

By marcie on Sun, 04-15-12, 22:28

Take the time to reflect and think seriously about your present and the future. Any relationship is based on honesty and trust. It is up to you, to accept and forgive, or to move on to a more stable and respectful life. I always wonder, why people have to hurt others, it is so sad and unnecessary. Wishing you all the happiness. God bless you.

By Izzo on Mon, 04-16-12, 08:14

I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you as well. From my experience that once a cheater, always a cheater. My wife emotionally cheated on me one time...I then forgave her and now she is doing it again with an ex boyfriend. The old addage goes...Fool me once shame on you...Fool me twice shame on me....

You have a long road ahead of you and it's going to be the hardest thing you have ever done to walk down it. I'm right there with you and know that you aren't the only 1 who is walking it..

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By April on Tue, 04-17-12, 14:56

Amelialee, would be wise to stand your ground/create boundaries and tell him to stop seeing her immediately, unless this has already been established. Then I'd take time, as the others mentioned, to consider what options you'd like to decide for yourself and your long term well being.

Have you considered individual counseling, if affordable?, while you stay with us for added support.

Hes had plenty of time to process what he created so DO take as much time as you need to process which direction/path you may want to take. The decision is yours to decide if this relationship can be salvaged or not and it takes both parties willingness to rebuild.

Choose wisely, treat kindly

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